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Our purpose is to provide a sounding board of viewpoints, opinions, and information to help you, the bimarried man, to make an informed choice and a responsible decision on how you are planning to deal with being bi and married. The following represents basic tenants, basic beliefs that the creators of this web site hold to be true:

(1) We believe that the bimarried man's decision of whether or not to reveal his secret desires to his own family is totally his decision alone and is the most personal decision that he can make. No one is empowered in any way to make this decision for him nor to pressure him to make that decision. When he has made a decision on whether or not to tell his family, no one is empowered in any way to pass judgement on him.

(2) We believe that the bimarried man has faith in family and the institution of marriage and did not enter marriage with the thought that someday he would be would be putting them at risk. We believe that when the bimarried man entered marriage, he hoped that he could either control his desire, hoped that it would go away, or, genuinely believed that he did not have the desire on a conscious level.

(3) We believe that the bimarried man owes his wife and family a lifetime of safety and happiness and will be a good father and a loving husband.

(4) We believe that the bimarried man owes it to himself and his family to get all the information that he can to make an informed decision but is never obligated at any time to ever establish a sexual relationship with any man.

(5) We believe that if the bimarried man seeks to establish a relationship with another man, that it is in the best interests of the bimarried man, the safety of his family, and equally important, the feelings of the other man (gay, single, bi, whatever), that this relationship be long term, closed loop (only one man, only one woman), and be with another married man.

(6) We believe that the bimarried man should always hold his wife and family to be his number one priority; any relationship with any other man is always secondary to family.

(7) We believe that when bimarried men are in a relationship with each other, that they respect each other's family and career and never ever do any activity to put them at risk.

(8) We believe that our desire for men is an inherent part of our genetic makeup and cannot be changed any more than could our shoe size or race be changed.

(9) We believe that the bimarried man can either be a "gay" married man who performs sex only for the pleasure of his wife and generally is NOT attracted to women or, a bimarried man can indeed be "bi" and enjoy sexual pleasure with a woman as well as with a man.