Sexual technique is Not a topic that was planned for this site. However, several of you have asked what we do and in fact, we received a suggestion of having a professional sexual therapist as an advisor to this site with their own web page; an option that we are looking in to. If this offends, our apology. It is NOT intended to be "porn" and we feel (after 3 voting recounts) that it still falls within the original scope and intent of this web site. If you feel otherwise, please tell us in the feedback/comments part of our forum board.

With regard to the following, this is merely the technique that we use; you probably have your own but again, as many have asked, here it is. For you lawyers, we are not sexual therapists, nor doctors, nor are we pretending to be anything remotely close. We are merely expressing how we conduct a particular aspect of sex between 2 consenting adults. Please don't be offended by this as this is more an article of public interest and is deliberately NOT trying to be pornographic.

Yes, I am a versatile man. Versatile, of course, being defined as enjoying taking another man as much as I enjoy being taken. My partner is much more of a top (he likes to take another man more than he would like to be taken); others can be "bottoms" (they enjoy being taken more than they like to take). Okay, I've been dancing around this. For those of you living in Palm Beach County, Florida, to "take" a man means to make love to him, your dick into his ass in the same manner as when your dick enjoys residency in your wife's vagina. No, it's not sin incarnate, nor is it filthy, and yes, it can be very enjoyable and very rewarding if performed correctly. I, personally, did not know how to bottom until my partner taught me. Dreaming about it and doing it are two very different things. Fortunately, he is a master (as it were) and here is the methodology that he taught me in how to bottom.

First, with regard to using protection. The default answer is to use protection, always. However, as I am in a monogamous relationship with my partner (yes, unusual sentence as we are both married) and know him 100% well, we bareback (no protection). However, this is highly risky and unless you know your partner 100%, both tested for STDs, etc., never ever ever have anal sex without protection. You are putting you and your wife at risk for STDs (Palm Beach county: Sexually Transmitted Diseases). HIV itself can take up to 6 months before it even appears as a positive result in a test (meaning you can be carrying it for 6 months, spreading it around like peanut butter before it even shows up that you have it). It's highly concentrated in pre-cum as well as sperm so pulling out before coming does not reduce your risk in anyway whatsoever. HIV can also take up to 10 years before turning into AIDs so "feeling as healthy as a horse" is no indication of not carrying HIV. Oral Sex? There is a unfortunate rumor that HIV cannot be passed through oral sex. I've read the medical sites and this is false; it can and has. If either of you have had multiple partners, oral sex, etc., play it safe, get tested. Around here, it runs at $75.00 for basic HIV test to $400 for the Cadillac test for everything under the sun deal at a local "anonymous" lab. It's also free/small fee and anonymous at most public health clinics. If not for yourself, then do it for your wife and his wife. There, enough of that.

Cleaning.

Anal sex can be clean and enjoyable if you use the 3's method. Rimming is the act of tonguing or licking the anus. This is highly erotic for both of us and sometimes is the foreplay to a great afternoon of mansex. It's no more "dirty" than oral sex on your wife if you've used the 3's method.

Supplies:

• Lever 2000 antibacterial soap
• 1 bottle liquid enema (like Fleet brand)
• 1 tube (large) of Ky jelly or jelly lubricant (read the box and ensure it does NOT damage condoms).
• 1 hemorrhoidal suppository

For you the bottom, you'll be giving yourself an enema 3 times. Your goal is to cleanse the lower 8 inches of your large intestine. Administer to yourself the enema per directions. During the 10-20 minute wait while you wait for it to be activated, you can engage in many types of foreplay. I enjoy heavy kissing, nipple pulling (his), and oral sex. After about 10 to 20 minutes, evacuate your bowls. Wipe clean, wash hands, and rinse off with hot water the enema bottle tip. Refill bottle with warm water and apply again, gently twisting bottle to cleanse the sides of the intestine. Go back to entertaining each other for about 5-10 minutes. Return and evacuate your bowl. Again, wipe clean, and rinse off with hot water the enema bottle tip. Refill bottle with warm water and apply again. You have another 5 minutes to turn each other wild. Return to bathroom, evacuate bowels for last time. Your stool should be pretty clean by now; if not, repeat. Insert 1 hemorrhoidal suppository into your rectum. This will help coat and soothe the colon area from the pounding that your partner will give you.

Now you have a choice, if you and your partner are not planning on rimming, then clean yourself thoroughly with the Lever 2000 soap and a wash rag.

If you and your partner are planning on rimming (highly suggested) then both enter shower and thoroughly lather using the Lever 2000 antibacterial soap each other's muscular hairy bottoms (woops, sorry about that, need to keep this non-pornographic) concentrating on the anus area and rinse. Repeat 2nd time and rinse. Repeat 3rd time and rinse. Dry. You can now begin rimming.

Anal Sex

You tops have work to do here as well. Unless you are an uncaring dolt and plan to inflict great pain and agony on your partner and reduce your chances of penetration to about zero, then go right ahead and try to plunge right on in. However, if your goal is to be a man and have mutually satisfying sex, then you need to do the following.

First, clean your hands and cock thoroughly with the Lever 2000 antibacterial soap. You will want to concentrate on "loosening" up your partner. Spread lube all around the outside of his anus, gently stroking the rectum opening. Thoroughly lube up one finger and gently insert it into his anus and begin working it around; gently pulling in and out and rubbing the outside muscles of the anus opening (Palm Beach County: "ass hole"). Asking your partner before hand if he is feeling okay, insert two thoroughly lubed fingers and gentle loosen up his rectum. You don't have to make this so medical and can flip him on his back and perform oral sex, massaging his prostrate at the same time as you are loosening him up. After several minutes, ask how he is doing and slip in the 3rd lubed finger. Watch those knuckles and being gentle. For most men, 3 fingers is enough to loosen the rectum up enough for the average male penis (unfortunately, my partner is nightmareishly above average and has to really work on me so as not to break me apart when he enters me).

At three fingers, begin transferring into your partners ass a handful of lube. When your partner can accommodate without too much pain 3 fingers moving around, ask him if he is ready to be entered by you. I realize this is painting a Mary Poppins type scene and I assure you that our conversations are much much more guttural, sweaty, grunting, and rough. So, add spice to taste, as it were. Now, there is the wild variety of positions easily available on the internet porn so I won't even go into them. Just ensure if you are acting in the role as a top that you TAKE YOUR TIME, lube up well, and listen to your partner.

The first 2 inches of a man's rectum are the most painful and, unusually, length does not matter; width does. Go very very slow, as a top, until the head of your dick has passed his sphincter muscles. For the bottom, gently push out with your anus as if you were going to evacuate your bowls (Palm Beach County: "take a shit"). (Bottoms, another hint; if you are feeling especially 'tight' the day you are going to make love, then pop about 4 Advil with Ibuprofin about 1 hour before you plan to make love; this too will help relax you and allow you to take the initial pain.) Pushing out with your anus opens up the anus slightly to accommodate your partner. It almost is ALWAYS painful at first. Unless you are in sheer torment, try to hold on until your partner gets his cock past your anus muscle ring. Tops, you may have to gently push in, then pull out, push in, then pull out. I, for example, have a bullet shaped dick (streamlined) so topping is easier for me. My partner has a bulbous mushroom head (on his cock that is) and it takes more effort. Bottoms: for some reason, your body eventually relaxes and you can feel your sphincter muscle relaxing, allowing your partner to fully plunge in. Tops, keep your dick lubed and every now and then pull out to re-lube. Bottoms: after about 5 minutes you'll get very very relaxed and your anus will be able to take his cock very easily now.

Don't try any difficult positions at first and wait until you are all relaxed. Believe me, it's amazing what you can take after than. Bottoms: Remember to work your Kegel muscles and "squeeze" on his dick. Don't just be a passive "hole", if you will. He can feel every squeeze, every activation of your kegel muscles.

Anal sex is NOT for everyone; in fact some detest it. I, personally, don't know why I enjoy it so much (as a bottom). There is something incredibly fulfilling to have my partner inside of me and knowing that I am pleasing him and knowing that he is getting pleased. No, again, I have zero desire to be a woman. I enjoy being a man and, in fact, wouldn't change ever even if somehow offered the opportunity. Enjoying being a bottom does not make you any less of a man or feminine or, anything like that. I've seen gay porn with bodybuilders and men you'd never want to meet in dark alleys at night as wild excited bottoms. I'll admit it, I like nothing better than to have been "taken" by my partner, stomach down on bed, and him resting his full weight on top of me and literally, fu**ing the crap out of me. Then, having him rest, sweaty, on top of me, almost falling asleep, while I continually "kegel" him.

Now, imagine me trying to explain this to my wife. There is no way that my wonderful wife could possibly understand this need; nor, could I ever incorporate it into our sexual routine (not that we couldn't with a dildo but we don't have one, would never purchase one, and I would NEVER ask her to use it on me in such a way. It's not just the dildo, it's everything that goes with it (muscles, hairy chest, warm dick, for example). I once posted a message to a site announcing my sexual dilemma (anonymously). They suggested incorporating a dildo in our married sex routine. That's about like coming upon a starving man and giving him a bowl of wax fruit; the look and feel is there but NONE of the substance. Sorry, my wife and I can get a little kinky but I know she would freak if I came home with a little item and said, "Honey, look what I bought....no, it's not for you, it's for me".