Well, that's not going to happen. That's about like saying never look at another man site or never again wonder how big his "package" really is. It's just not going to happen. So, if you know that you are going to do it, then ensure that you are doing it safely.

NEVER USE YOUR HOME E-MAIL ADDRESS. In other words, in the same e-mail address that you mail the baby pictures to grandma, don't send pics or stories to another man. This step should be very very obvious but you would be surprised at some of the letters I have gotten (pre-this web site) from men who were using their regular home or office address.

NEVER SEND E-MAIL FROM WORK. Look guys, let's get real. My wife is a IT network administrator in a large firm. I know for a fact that there are some of you thinking you are pretty smart using YAHOO or HOTMAIL at work trying to get around the other golden rule (never send e-mails from your work address). But, guess again. These are as easily read as any other e-mail as THEY STILL GO THROUGH THE COMPANY SERVERS. 'Nuff said. Just don't do it. You'd be amazed what the IT folks are reading. I know, her co-workers tell her about certain messages.

ACCEPT THAT ALL E-MAIL FROM YAHOO OR HOTMAIL IS OPENLY READ. Yes, this is true. Now, out of the billions of e-mail flying around, is YOUR e-mail in particular being read? Maybe, maybe not. Depends if you are being investigated for something, wife is suspicious, teenager next door is out to get you. Why risk it? Do what I do. For the most part, I write letters in password protected MsWord documents. Basically, open a new MsWord file. Write your letter. Do a "FILE SAVE AS" but before saving, click on "options" and enter password protect. File Save as under a non-eyebrow raising name such as, "mortgage data". This pretty effectively encrypts it from the teenager next door and ensures that if you accidently send it to grandma, she won't be able to open it. We like using our Secure e-mail program from this website as well (see secure-email link above, sign up and read more.

NEVER HAVE WORK/HOME ADDRESSES IN YOUR SECURE E-MAIL, HOTMAIL, OR YAHOO ACCOUNT. Why risk a mix up? You shouldn't have your bosses address in your "hotstudforu@hotmail.com" account anyway (unless he's your bi-married lover but I won't even go there).